Authentic Communication: How to communicate authentically
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Today I’m giving you permission to do something you’ve been craving…
Something that will make you feel SO MUCH better and get more people to not only respond to you more favorably – but LUNGE FORWARD to join your tribe!
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How do you remain authentic and present when you communicate?
Transcript of this episode:
In today’s episode, I’m going to give you permission to do something that you’ve been craving for.
Hi there, Max Simon here the founder of Big Vision Business and welcome to the Big Vision Show. This is how you can reach more people and thrive financially. So lately I’ve been connecting with a lot of high level entrepreneurs who have been saying some very sweet things to me. They’ll say something like, I really appreciate your authenticity and I want to just bring some light to this dialogue because the truth is I’m not doing anything special, I’m doing what you crave which is to just be true and be honest and speak to what’s really happening in you.
So what does it mean to be authentic? It just means to be willing to talk about what’s really happening, who you really are, what’s really going through your mind. And oftentimes expose the things that maybe you don’t think other people will think favorably about like mistakes you’re making, like stuff that’s going wrong, like stuff that you’re afraid of, like what you’re excited about. When you just give yourself permission to start sharing what’s going on for you: 1) it will feel much better to you and 2) other people will respond to that in a way that they trust you and like you and appreciate you.
Now inherently that brings up the fear that people have that if I’m authentic then people won’t see me as a powerful leader. Here’s what I’d say to that, there’s a difference between being authentic and being ashamed of it and being authentic and being okay with it. So when you share what’s going on with you and you’re ashamed or you’re embarrassed or you’re concerned about it, you’re right, nobody’s going to think it’s that powerful. But when you can talk about what’s happening for you from a place of presence, from a place of willing to actually embrace that it’s real and true and powerful for you, that’s when people will see that vulnerability as a space of power as well. so that’s my suggestion for how you can start doing what you most want, which is to be authentic and real in your life and business.
I’d love to hear your feedback. What’s your suggestion? How do you remain authentic and present when you communicate. Please post a comment below, myself and everyone in the tribe would love to hear it.
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Being authentic for me is being comfortable within myself and discovering my true self buried for years.
Speaking my truth that comes from years of learning to travel through the dark night of the soul. Allowing me to reclaim and
honor the wonder of me. Reclaiming my own inner authority and sharing my deep self opens the door to accepting me and reclaiming my authentic self.
I love helping businesses find ways to grow and flourish in this crazy economy.
Being authentic for me means being real about my desire to help people AND make money doing it. I struggled so much with a belief that selling was somehow inauthentic. Now I’m providing people with real value…I help people fall asleep!
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Tim
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Learning to be OK with being transparent and talking about what’s REAL for me. I find it especially challenging when no one around me is talking about it. But that is shifting as I share this with you. LIfe is amazing. AB
These days the best places I have found to express myself authentically is in comments to posts by friends on Facebook. That is a wide open door to respond to what a person said in a way that is affirming and encouraging.
Also my status updates are getting more candid. That tends to get positive replies from those I most admire.
I’m transparent in my blog posts. I share stories from my life, not just the fluffy stories, but the big ones. The ones where it might make some people uncomfortable. It’s connecting, it’s vulnerable, and I love it! Being authentic is incredibly powerful, and when I’m authentic, and you’re authentic Max, it gives us all permission to be authentic – and totally true self!
Great video Max (again). I had an experience just this month, where I let my subscribers watch what was happening on the back end, as we prepared to launch my new website. I let them in on what worked well and what the problems were along the way and I discovered that I had the MOST opens I had ever had for my newsletter. Our clients do just want to see whats real and they want to see how we work through our own challenges.
Thanks for all you do. I am truly grateful.
Love and Sunshine!
I’m not quite sure how I connected to you at big Vision but ( as usual) the timing seems perfect. I’ve been feeling I could use some support with boosting my moral, vision definition and with the understanding that though I doubt my “expertise” at times, I do KNOW that my path is presenting itself and truely, I can almost taste/see/feel it. Everything is pointing to doing my thing, with an authenticity, sincerity and faith I must share. Thanks for helping me to see myself (a real person with a big vision). I look forward to more vids.
Awesome Max. Great reminder for the little voices that they can’t ever come back.
Being authentic is for me being true, real, and congruent. It requires being in touch with who I am, acknowledging all parts of me and not trying to put up a mask to look like the some kind of unreal ideal of me. It requires simplicity, honesty and humility. It is also the only way to deeply conect with others.
I liked what you said about the being ashamed of weaknesses or being OK with weaknesses. It is all about personal alignment.
Thanks for your views
Gilles
It has taken me too a long time to feel authentic and as what one of my long ago clients call “comfortable in my own skin”. I was always looking outside myself for guidelines and approval of how to act and what to say, to fit in, to be liked, to be comfortable or “normal”. It has only been in my work that I felt 100% authentic for some reason. I think it was because I was wearing a hat perhaps that gave me permission to be my true self. A place where my focus was off what other people thought of me and totally on doing what was the best I could for them, But socially and within myself I was all over the place and never felt authentic except perhaps as an authentic chameleon!
I learned that accepting myself, tuning in and asking to be aligned with my True Self”, being quiet, meditation, noticing when I am being pulled out of my center and coming back, breathing, A life time of learning self love and acceptance, taking absolute responsibility for everything going on in my hologram (Much as I really miss being “right) ho’oponopono. Now that I am writing about this, I don’t think one can be authentic with others until one has some love and respect for one’s self. And for me that has taken me a long time to feel is natural.
I think sometimes, just admitting I’m nervous or excited. Or acknowledging what I am feeling opens the door for relaxation and genuine communication because I am not split trying to keep something hidden. We are looking for genuine connection, I think, not the presentation of some perfection in the abstract.
I do have a wonderful story of the consequence of being authentic, though. Last Sunday, I went to a tango class for teh first time. Some very experienced dancers were there and we were being asked to do one exercise. Suddenly, once woman began wailing how she didn’t get it and couldn’t do it and on and on. She was genuinely distraught.Later one of the dancers said she noticed such a contrast between me and this other woman. She said, “It was your first time. You are not a dancer and yet you were catching on quickly and seemed to be having fun. How do you explain it?”
Well, I was taken aback. Pleased, naturally. I had no idea someone was observing me that way. I said, “I can think of a couple of things, one is I really didn’t care at all what anyone thought of me and my ability and she so clearly did to the point this beautiful dancer was paralyzed with self-criticism. Secondly, I came to have fun and I was so in the moment focusing on the steps, I was in bliss.”
It has taken me a life time to get to this point. Being authentic ultimately means allowing the Holy Spirit to dance you and it is a journey every step.
Thank you for this opportunity, Max and everyone. I obviously was really stimulated by the question and the video and the comments.
Much love,
Ahulani
I also meant to say, I had such compassion for her because I know too well what that state of fear of looking foolish, of not being perfect, and how angry I would get at everyone else. I really saw her anguish, how it was all in her head and how she was torturing herself because she was such a perfect mirror of my own perfectionist tendencies. I had never seen so clearly how a mask of being perfect that doesn’t allow awkwardness, change and “not knowing” is such a prison. Nothing and no one could connect with her. Except for those of us who knew what it feels like to be a “perfect messy meltdown” and how compassion and humor are always waiting right there.
When I’m feeling shy or nervous about meeting new people, maybe at a party, maybe at a meet-up, even a job interview, I tell myself that I’m going into a room of old friends, that any one of these people I’m about to meet could be my very best friend that I haven’t met yet and that the only way that could become true is if I am truly myself when I meet them. I act as though everyone I meet is already a dear, old friend. It works wonders for my confidence and opens me right up.
I would love to step into authentic communication and behaviour…I feel I always fall short…dissapoint myself….I don’t want to offend or hurt anyone…but feel the deep need to share my perception of what freedom is to me. Detached from all this reality, heritage, culture, identity, any thought whatsoever. I want to express what I really feel in order to gather and connect and lead a tribe of people that like a concept of freedom that involves just listening to the deafening hum of existence of ones soul. I want to leave this place and explore the universe with this tribe and shatter any solid concept we have of ourselves. I just want to write/record/sing/perform songs that embrace this feeling.
Anybody out there?