You are the AVERAGE of the 5 people who…
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A few months ago, I heard Stewart Emery speak at a private event and he declared something that I’ll never forget.
He said: “Environment always wins.”
Meaning, the closest people in your life and the places where you spend your time will always have the great influence over you and impact your reality in the deepest and most profound way…
What does this have to do with you?
I don’t think most people realize how powerful their environments are on their success and wealth.
To throw out another great quote (that I live by), Jim Rohn said:
“You are the AVERAGE of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”
That should either scare the living day lights out of you or make you smile.
But here’s the thing… take it a step further. What if you were the average INCOME of the 5 people you spend the most time with?
Meaning, let’s say that the amount of money you are destined to earn was the average of 5 of your closest relationships.
Would you be satisfied with that?
The answer is probably NO!
But is it really true?
Do the people around you and the environments you spend time in really influence you that much?
Well… let’s take a look.
Have you ever wanted to go try something new that you’ve never done before? Maybe it’s going to take dance classes. Maybe it’s starting your own business. Maybe it’s getting a tattoo.
And when you shared this new-found desire with your closest kin, they didn’t have the same level of enthusiasm as excitement as you did.
Maybe the called the idea silly. Maybe they thought it wasn’t the right thing to do. Or maybe they just didn’t respond at all…
So what did you do?
Did you let their opinions change your desire or did you go ahead and do it anyways?
If you’re like just about everyone on the planet (myself included), you probably had the first experience. You started to doubt, change, or adjust the desire based upon the response of your inner-circle.
Now that doesn’t make you or them bad people. It’s just proof that our environment impacts the way we operate in the world.
This is important…
So if there is one thing I’ve learned over the last few years of generating over $1.7 million dollars in my business, it’s that the people and environments you surround yourself with are MEGA-IMPORTANT.
You need to be conscious of of where you spend your time and who you spend your time with. Period.
And if you don’t feel like these people and places are substantially ELEVATING your game and INSPIRING you to be bigger, better, and more bold…
Then you need to find new people and places to be.
Why I’m writing this post…
Because last night, I spent time with a really good friend Jonathan Budd (his blog is killer!)
And we talked business, new projects, what’s most important, and everything in between. And I left feeling so ALIVE, so INSPIRED, and so GRATEFUL for having someone like JB in my inner circle.
Which is what inspired me to take the time and write this little story for you. Which again, is solid proof that being around great people inspires you to do great things.
It’s a natural law…
Here’s a great exercise
Write down the 5 people you spend the most time with and the 3 environments you spend the most time in.
In regards to people, rate each of them on a scale of 1-10 in these categories (and don’t worry… they won’t see this):
- Wealth consciousness (1-10)
- Up to BIG things (1-10)
- Encouraging & positive (1-10)
- Health conscious (1-10)
In regards to your environment, rate each place on a scale of 1-10 in these categories:
- Feels abundant (1-10)
- Clean (1-10)
- Good energy (1-10)
- Positive & uplifting(1-10)
Then average your scores together in each category for each environment and person.
You CANNOT settle
An 8 (for each) should be your bottom line. No less…
YES… it will be difficult to change.
YES… it will be worth it.
YES… the types of people and environments you’ve always dreamed about are out there.
You simply need to be conscious, courageous, and caring enough realize what isn’t working and make a commitment to find the type of people and places that will lift you up.
So tell me…
What will you commit to doing after reading this post?
Be bold. Be courageous. And know that you deserve to be with people and in environments that support you playing at your highest.
Please share your thoughts below!
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Hey Max,
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I sure need to keep working on these scores… I couldn’t agree more that we shouldn’t settle on anything less than an 8. I also like adding my own scales for measurement (like how much does my environment inspire my business creativity…) Sometimes, it just feels so hard to stick to this commitment to constantly raise the bar. Evidently, the environment has already made a profound impact on me
One of the things that helps me the most, is just staying focused on the one big step that is right ahead of me. Maybe it is changing my environment, maybe it is adding an important person into my inner circle, and maybe it is just letting go of things and people that are no longer a good fit.
Thanks for this great reminder! It is indeed a journey!.
Eyal.
Well then my friend… so glad you’ll be spending so much time with US over the next period. can’t wait to see you!! Much love.
I don’t live with the most positive thinking people, to be honest with you, and I wont change them by removing myself from them ( which I won’t do since some of them are family members ) but I can change my attitude and practice love. I’ve recently watched a video on how the practice of Ho’Oponopono, asking for forgiveness for the part we play in every situation, followed by a statement of love and gratitude can work miracles in our collective lives and the world we create together as one.
If I include the considerable time I spend on the computer connecting with people like Max Simon, Mary Morrissay, the folks at KarmaTube and other enlightened “friends”, my scores will go WAY up !
It’s definitely tough when it’s your family that’s not playing at the level. Definitely requires an even deeper level of practice.
TRIBE – what ideas do you have for Jacqueline around dealing with family in a wealth-conscious way? Let’s do a mini brainstorming session here…
I can relate to this. I definitely feel that Hooponopo helps, for sure. I feel rather strongly that if we want to keep our loved ones around us and vice versa those relationships need to go both ways. Maybe they aren’t equal but they need to represent some reciprocity. So, maybe I do “x” for my loved one, and then I may ask them for something in return, like, practicing an open mind and heart. I am open to them and they way they feel and are, but I expect the same thing back, and sometimes, I fight for it. In my family, I raise consciousness through various / creative approaches. I don’t give up on them.
With love,
Regina
Yes… to the 5 people I spend the most time with and the places I spend my time. Love the quiz!
Max,
What an excellent post. The test was an eye opener. I need to spend more of my time with people with loftier goals. My best friend is such a humanitarian, but she is satisfied if she can just make ends meet. She wants to travel the whole month of February; however, she sleeps on the couch in her place of business. I love her dearly. She will always be in my life, but I need to spend time with people that can make my business, chronic pain coaching, better and a household term. Thank you for this post. It woke me up!
Diane
You get to LOVE the people who you LOVE…. AND it’s important to stay close to the people who will support us in our goals and dreams at the level we know it’s possible… THANK YOU for sharing. Much love, Max
Oh boy did this shock me….and it shouldn’t have because it is so obvious when I look at my environment in these terms. Let’s just say my scores were NOT 8′s…not even close. I’d say it is time to make some changes, and fast. Thanks for your wisdom, and for the reference to Jim Rohn. He was pure gold, and I miss him.
Love, love, love this post! I really like the measurements. Its time for me to find some new peeps!
If you are committed to that Lori, check this out. The most amazing visionary people will be there with you: http://www.enlightenedentrepreneurexperience.com/reserve/
This is great! And so very right! I heard this before about the people but not the environments. I think it is time for me to upgrade again. Thanks for this info.
Thanks for the post Max, I genuinely appreciate it!
I realized after I did your assessment that I’m surrounded by positive people in a supportive environment. Yay!
And speaking of positive people…as it happens, Jeremy Agee is staying with me here in Scottsdale. I just found out that we’re both friends with Lauren Di Biase, who is the person that told me about your work. Small world. : )
haha… such a small world. Jeremy is actually dating the woman who is running my company too! Talk about “connected”! haha…
Hi Max,
Loving what you do, and this was a really timely idea for me to look at because as I explored it, apart from my partner and son, I’m not really spending much time with anyone! All of my time seems to be dedicated to my business. There isn’t much going on outside of it because I am working so hard to get things happening. It has really shown me how I need ‘to get out there’ and network – I am finding this to be an isolated way of existing. I am curious what your thoughts and advice might be? Thanks Max
Hey Jamie! This is why many people say: “it’s lonely at the top”. But it doesn’t have to be. It’s always YOUR choice as to how much time and energy you spend with other people.
I’ve found that it’s NECESSARY to surround myself with others playing at a higher level. They inspire me. They prevent me from making mistakes. They support me when I need it… So I would say you should ABSOLUTELY start carving out the time and space to connect. Much love, Max
DAMN, I love how honest this forces us all to be with ourselves. I LOVE THIS POST. VERY confrontational, but with love. Thank you for this work. I love everyone in my life, and feel I’ve chosen well, but when keeping score, I realize that I can still love them and still reach higher. There is NO SETTLING.
Many thanks, Max.
P.S. Check out my new website
your site is AWESOME Ariella! Wow… just looks great.
And I know your peeps well. Great hearts. Amazing souls. And often broke. I’ve found it’s fun to have fun with them. But I have to spend most of my time with people at a higher level. Right? Thanks for sharing!! Max
RIGHT. Changes already have been made because I’ve realized this before. But your blog crystallized it for me. Thank you. And thanks (on the site).
Deeeeaaamn, Max! That post needed to be posted, needed to be said. It’s funny because I have been recently been thinking about just this very thing; feeling like, “wait a sec, I need to make some changes.” Thanks for this, as usual. Not easy to do, but it DEF requires consideration and then action.
follow that intuition girl. You’re right on the $$…
What I find is I keep ending up with people asking me to do things for them and I become drained – work, family, friends. Lately, I started signaling this type of parties are over. It can get incredibly lonely but I regain a sense of purpose in my life. Just don’t understand how come and I kep attracting people who think I can give, when all my friends so far much better off but still taking.
I like this post as a reminder: gotta be caring but also courageous enough to pursue one’s life purpose, sometimes the enery and time one has got could be just that; life is precious.
Thank you, Max.
Remember… saying NO is a big YES to your mission and purpose… so learn to set better boundaries and you’ll be much happier.
Oh oh, I definitely related to an earlier post !
I’m spending nearly ALL my time on my biz or with my hubs and our dog. Part of the reason for my isolation was that we moved away to a new area recently. Then unfortunately we had our home broken into last week.
Your post reminded me that we DO have choices so today I’m off to find a more inspiring and safer environment for us to live in and I’ll get to meet new people in the process!
I also need to reconnect with you Max to improve my virtual environment too!
Big hugs
Sharon (UK)
Max, another insightful and timely article! I have just recently began expanding my horizons via online pow wow sessions with individuals who I admire and respect for their advice. Especially when it forces me to go back and research more to ensure I can reach higher! My own inner network before was completely at a loss to expanding their minds towards the future and technology. They are blinded by their perceptions and limited beliefs. I have not left them in the dark. One day, my presence may enlighten them to better goals!
See if I am on the right track, by checking out my website.
I can tell from the way you communicate and the way you SEE how others are stuck that you’re on the right track. Great awareness Cynthia… and THANK YOU for sharing. Have a great day. Much love, Max
yeah..
so bad situation i get now.
i think i should do changes as soon as possible
i do not lead my life in such a dirty way any more..
thanks for these.
this means a lot for me..